I Said – You Said

I Said – You Said is an interactive, gender-inclusive program on sexual assault. The presenters share their different perspectives on a hookup clouded by alcohol. The audience can ask questions and then decides the case acting as the jury using the policy definition of the institution. The story can be told with a diversity of voices including same-sex relationships and male survivors.

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Program Name Level of Evidence Format Target Audience Special Features
I Said – You Said
Promising Direction
  • Presentation
  • Undergraduate students
Interactive theatrical performance
Learning Objectives

By the end of the program, participants will have an increased:

⦁ Understanding of affirmative and clear consent, coercion, incapacitation, and impaired consent.
⦁ Understanding of sexual abuse, relationship abuse, intimate partner abuse, dating violence, stalking, harassment, sexual assault, rape, sexting, and exploitation.
⦁ Understanding of options for sexual violence survivors, especially medical attention, reporting options, and emotional support.
⦁ Commitment to active intervention and bystander engagement when witnessing or encountering any form of sexual harassment or misconduct.
⦁ Comfort speaking out about sexual violence, respect and healthy relationships in front of their peers.


Participants of this interactive case study join a simulated jury and hear the case of two students who hook-up at a party (under the influence of alcohol). After their theatrical performance of this situation, the two compelling co-presenters facilitate with and guide the audience through their decision on whether lines were crossed and by whom. Multiple sessions may be run with different gender scenarios (She-She, He-He, She-He, They-They, etc.).


⦁ Large group audience for 45-75 minutes
⦁ Large group, break into smaller groups (by age, gender, position, etc.)
⦁ Large group, break into groups by gender (or gender identity)
⦁ Multiple sessions run with different presenters


⦁ Online or in-person. Campus Outreach Services can perform up to 8 sessions in one day with groups as large as 5,000.

Population Served

High School, College, Military, Corporations, Faith Groups, Greeks, Athletes, Faculty, Staff, Student Leaders, New Student Orientation, and Parent Organizations.

Theoretical Basis For Approach

The program is grounded in the following evidence and research from the field: Bystander Intervention research from David Lisak and others; identification of risk factors for perpetration and victimization from research by Rapaport & Burkhart, Foubert, Koss; gender differences in perceptions of educational approaches from Kelly & Torres, Kilmartin and Katz; and experiences of sexual victimization among various races and religious groups from Kalof & Wade and others.

Program Effectiveness

Campus Outreach Services conducts internal evaluations using pre and post test results from its current participants. From data collected at 500 of their performances, participants have shown: an increase in knowledge, improvement in attitudes, increase in risk-reduction behavior, and increased understanding of the importance to engage with peers by confronting negative behaviors, attitudes, and statements that are rape-supportive. Internal evaluation data is available upon request.


“I Said-You Said” has been hosted by 2500+ groups including:

⦁ Dartmouth University
⦁ Brown University
⦁ Duke
⦁ Texas A&M
⦁ University of San Diego
⦁ Amherst College
⦁ Williams College
⦁ US Naval Academy
⦁ US Air Force Academy
⦁ Holy Cross University
⦁ Notre Dame


To request a performance, fill out the Campus Outreach Services Contact Form. The cost of the program starts at $1500.


Kalof, L. & Wade, B. H. (1995). Sexual attitudes and experiences with sexual coercion: exploring the influence of race and gender. Journal of Black Psychology, 21(3), 224-238.

Katz, J. (1994, 2000). Mentors in Violence Prevention Playbook.

Kelly, B. T., & Torres, A. (2006). Campus safety: perceptions and experiences of women students. Journal of College Student Development, 47(1), 20-36.

Kilmartin, C., & Berkowitz, A. (2005). Sexual assault in context: teaching college men about gender. Mahwah, NJ: Lawrence Eribaum Associates Publishers.

Rapaport, K. & Burkhart, B. R. (1984). Personality and attitudinal characteristics of sexually coercive college males. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 2(2), 216-221.