He Said – She Said / I Said – You Said

He Said – She Said is an interactive, gender-inclusive program on sexual assault. The performance that features survivors telling their stories alongside their perpetrators and then asks the audience to act a jury. The stories feature a diversity of voices including same-sex relationships and male survivors. The program can come with either the title “He Said – She Said” or “I Said – You Said,” depending on institutional preference.

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Program Name Level of Evidence Format Target Audience Special Features
He Said – She Said / I Said – You Said
Promising Direction
  • Presentation
  • Undergraduate students
Interactive theatrical performance
Learning Objectives

By the end of the program, participants will have an:

  • increased understanding of the concepts of affirmative and clear consent, coercion, incapacitation, and impaired consent
  • increased understanding of sexual abuse, relationship abuse, intimate partner abuse, dating violence, stalking, harassment, sexual assault, rape, sexting, and exploitation
  • increased understanding of the options for someone who has experienced sexual violence, especially medical attention, reporting options and emotional support
  • increased commitment to intervention when they witness or encounter any form of sexual violence or misconduct.
  • increased comfort  speaking out about sexual violence in front of their peers  

The performance centers upon an interactive jury exercise co-presented by a male and female educator. Students hear the real-life story of Jake and Erica, from their meeting in a class to their night of drinking and dancing. Each member of the audience gets a vote and applies your school’s policy to decide whether lines were crossed and by whom. A guided debate is followed with key take-aways to promote bystander intervention and risk reduction.


One performance of 45 minutes, plus optional hour-long breakout discussions afterwards.


Campus Outreach Services can perform up to 8 sessions in one day with groups as large as 5,000.

Population Served

High school students, college students, athletes, Greeks, faculty and staff.

Theoretical Basis For Approach

The program is grounded in the following evidence and research from the field: Bystander Intervention research from David Lisak and others; identification of risk factors for perpetration and victimization from research by Rapaport & Burkhart, Foubert, Koss; gender differences in perceptions of educational approaches from Kelly & Torres, Kilmartin and Katz; and experiences of sexual victimization among various races and religious groups from Kalof & Wade and others.

Program Effectiveness

Campus Outreach Services conducts internal evaluations using pre and post test results from its current participants. From data collected at 500 of their performances, participants have shown: an increase in knowledge, improvement in attitudes, increase in behavior intent to engage in risk reduction, and increased understanding of the importance of engaging with peers by confronting negative behaviors, attitudes and statements that are rape-supportive. Internal evaluation data is available upon request.


A list is available from Campus Outreach Services upon request.


To request a performance email or call 866-966-9013. The cost of the program starts at $1500. Campus outreach services uses a portion of the fee paid by each host to support doing their program for students in economically disadvantaged communities.


Kalof, L. & Wade, B. H. (1995). Sexual attitudes and experiences with sexual coercion: exploring the influence of race and gender. Journal of Black Psychology, 21(3), 224-238.

Katz, J. (1994, 2000). Mentors in Violence Prevention Playbook.

Kelly, B. T., & Torres, A. (2006). Campus safety: perceptions and experiences of women students. Journal of College Student Development, 47(1), 20-36.

Kilmartin, C., & Berkowitz, A. (2005). Sexual assault in context: teaching college men about gender. Mahwah, NJ: Lawrence Eribaum Associates Publishers.

Rapaport, K. & Burkhart, B. R. (1984). Personality and attitudinal characteristics of sexually coercive college males. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 2(2), 216-221.