|Program Title||Can I Kiss You?|
|Overview||Mike Domitrz presents the one-person show sharing how-to skills for: asking first (verbal consent), being a friend (bystander intervention), and opening a door (properly supporting survivors and helping more survivors come forward). The presentation takes an interactive and inclusive approach.|
|program name||level of evidence"Supported by evidence, promising direction or emerging"||bystander"Bystander programs engage men and women not (primarily) as potential perpetrators or victims, but rather as potential bystanders to situations involving sexual or intimate partner violence. Bystander prevention programs presume that all members of the community have a role in shifting norms to prevent violence.... The bystander model includes tools and ideas for action and strongly encourages each person to make a difference." (Gibbons & Evans, 2013, page 5)||empathy"Empathy-based programs give participants the skills to understand sexual violence, provide compassionate responses to disclosures, and reduce the likelihood of sexual assault perpetration by males." (Gibbons & Evans, 2013, page 4)||dispelling
rape myths"These programs address common misconceptions and myths about circumstances, causes, and realities of sexual violence. Topics often include rates of assault and reporting, definitions of consent, and clarifying common circumstances of assault." (Gibbons & Evans, 2013)
|alcoholThese programs discuss the role alcohol plays in sexual violence and how drinking impacts the communication of consent.||otherAdditional topics of focus are listed here.|
|Can I Kiss You?||Promising Direction||X||X||X||X||additional programming and training offered|
|Author||Michael J. Domitrz, DATE SAFE Project|
The aim of the program is to:
The presentation relies on the use of call and response, role playing, and storytelling to communicate important messages and themes.
The base program is one 75-minute presentation.
There is no minimum or maximum number of attendees for the “Can I Kiss you?” presentation. Date Safe offers a variety of services to complement the main presentation. These options include: training for peer educators and residence life staff; a Q & A session for faculty and staff; a panel discussion for the campus community; and many other options, customizable to your campus.
undergraduate students, high school students, military
|Theoretical basis for approach||
The program's emphasis on verbal consent is based on research that demonstrates that college students are likely to rely on non-verbal cues for sexual activity (Humphreys, 2007). The program emphasizes respect for others because of evidence of the ways that social hierarchy contributes to rape culture (QREM, 2016). Detailed information about the theoretical basis for the program content and pedagogical approach can be found in the QREM evaluation study (2016).
DATE SAFE Project commissioned an evaluation study to examine the program’s impact on three populations: high school students, college students, and military personnel. The study used a non-experimental design that demonstrated small but statistically significant changes among college students in all key areas of focus: clear communication, respect for partners and groups, cultural perceptions and identification, learning boundaries, and listening. Among college students, the largest increase was in respect for partners and groups (QREM, 2016). The full text of the evaluation study is available from Date Safe upon request
|Participating colleges and universities||
Since 2005, DATE SAFE has visited over 300 campuses, including: Boston College, CSU Pomona, Kutztown University, Sarah Lawrence College, SUNY Albany, University of Alabama, University of South Dakota, Wheaton College, and many more.
|Considerations for administrators||
Students and administrators say this presentation is engaging and funny. Many students connect with Mike speaking about how his sister's assault sparked his passion to work in the field. Keep in mind that inviting a single presenter to campus — especially someone who is not a survivor or a student — might mean that not all students will connect with the presentation. Consider how you could pair this presentation with other programming, to ensure a multiplicity of voices are heard that reflect the diversity of people affected by sexual violence.
|How to access this program||
Campuses can reach out to DATE SAFE by phone (Rita at 800-329-9390) or visit their website and complete the 'contact us' information. Their professional fee is all-inclusive.
Humphreys, T. (2007). Perceptions of sexual consent: The impact of relationship history and gender. Journal of Sex Research, 44(4), 307-315. doi: 10.1080/00224490701586706
McDrury, J., & Alterio, M. (2002). Learning through storytelling in higher education: Using reflection & experience to improve learning. London and Sterling, VA: Kogan Page. Retrieved from:https://www.cs.kent.ac.uk/people/staff/saf/share/representations-of-practice/four-stage-storytelling.pdf
Quantitative Research Evaluation & Measurement [QREM] (2016, October 31). Date Safe: 2016 Evidence-Based Evaluation. (n.p.)